18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. (Colossians 3:18–19, NKJV)
God arranged the roles of husbands and wives in marriage. He mandates and obligates husbands to practice honoring love toward their wives. He mandates and obligates wives to show submissive respect toward their husbands. The wife who respects her husband is more readily held in esteem and honor by her husband. The husband who acts in love toward his wife is more likely to receive her kind affection instead of the bitterness that grows out of selfish neglect. Husbands and wives “feed” off of each other. How you treat your spouse has a direct effect on how he or she treats you. Each must bear their responsibility before God to fulfill the role He gave them. By doing so, both influence the other for what is right and good in God’s sight.