Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 9:9, NKJV)
God provides humanity with the keys of a fulfilled life on earth, even as He explains that life “under the sun” is empty when we make physical pursuits the sum of life’s purpose. Fearing God and keeping His commandments is gives wholeness to life (Eccl. 12:13). When God saw it was not good that Adam was alone, He created woman and presented her to him as his wife – his lifelong companion who corresponded to him like none other. And so, marriage is given by God to provide joy and fulfillment during our days on earth. It is our portion in life, given by the Giver of life for us to enjoy. How sad that many marriages become the source of heartache and conflict. Make it your aim to honor God’s gift of marriage by honoring your husband or wife. God-approved marriage is a blessing, not a burden. Accept His blessing by showing joyful devotion to your spouse, thanksgiving to God and loving responsibility toward each other.
3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” 4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matthew 19:3–6, NKJV)
The word of God is clear and unambiguous as it defines marriage. Marriage has been arranged and defined by God, not man. Therefore, all people are to honor marriage as He gave it, not as they wish to define it (Heb. 13:4). God ordained marriage to be between one man and one woman for life (Gen. 2:24). Marriage is permanent (for life) and is not subject to the whims of men and women. Jesus says we sin when we separate what God joins together. Respect marriage and God who gave it as a blessing. Recommit yourself today to honoring marriage by being the kinds of husband or wife who brings honor to God in your marriage.
18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. (Colossians 3:18–19, NKJV)
God arranged the roles of husbands and wives in marriage. He mandates and obligates husbands to practice honoring love toward their wives. He mandates and obligates wives to show submissive respect toward their husbands. The wife who respects her husband is more readily held in esteem and honor by her husband. The husband who acts in love toward his wife is more likely to receive her kind affection instead of the bitterness that grows out of selfish neglect. Husbands and wives “feed” off of each other. How you treat your spouse has a direct effect on how he or she treats you. Each must bear their responsibility before God to fulfill the role He gave them. By doing so, both influence the other for what is right and good in God’s sight.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22, NKJV)
Who you find to marry makes a huge difference in your life. God arranged marriage for one man and one woman for life (Gen. 2:18-25). By it, loneliness is averted through a companionship that unites two into “one flesh”. While millions minimize marriage, sinning against God by living together, marriage continues to be “honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Heb. 13:4). Marriage is intended to bring joy and fulfillment to life, not painful complaint, criticism and cynicism. A good wife (or husband) is a great blessing from the Lord. So, choose your mate wisely and live in the Lord’s favor. If you are already married, then make it your aim to be the kind of wife or husband who brings your spouse joy and gladness.
21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. 23 And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:21–24, NKJV)
God created woman to complete man; without Eve, Adam had no comparable companion (see Genesis 2:18-20). The wisdom of God is on full display as He fashioned Eve from Adam’s rib. They are now inseparable; one flesh. This informs us of the relationship between the husband and the wife. No longer separate, in marriage they are “one flesh”, united in both body and soul. This God-formed and lifelong union of husband and wife in marriage is the cohesive bond of the family and of society itself. Whenever marriage is redefined and replaced by the will of human beings, society’s building block, the family, is undermined and destroyed. No society can long endure that thumbs its nose at marriage as God has designed it and defined it in His word. Honor marriage; not the sinful imitations of the real thing (read Hebrews 13:4).
17 For Herod himself had sent and laid hold of John, and bound him in prison for the sake of Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife; for he had married her. 18 Because John had said to Herod, “It is not lawful for you to have your brother’s wife.” (Mark 6:17-18)
Read that again. It is undeniable that some marriages are not lawful in the sight of God. Herod and Herodias had married each other, but it was “not lawful” before God. You see, when they first met they already had spouses. They met, fell in love, schemed to divorce their mates and marry each other, which they did (Josephus, Antiquities of the Jews, XVIII:V). John the baptizer condemned their adultery and eventually lost his head for it (Mk. 6:19-28). We must remember that God-ordained marriage is for life, and God does not hold guiltless those who separate what God joins together (Matt. 19:3-6). Honor marriage by honoring the will of Him who gave us marriage (Heb. 13:4).
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)
Marriage is greatly dishonored when people live together without marriage, by same sex marriage and by unscriptural remarriage. Nevertheless, God commands that we hold marriage in honor. It is not biblical to conclude that every marriage is approved by God. John was killed after he told Herod it was “not lawful” to have his brother Philip’s wife, “for he had married her” (Mark 6:17-18). Herod was in a marriage, but it was not sanctioned by God. It was not honorable; it was sinful. Are you in an honorable, God-approved marriage? The Bible tells you. Jesus said marriage is for life; God joins the man and woman together (Matt. 19:4-5; Rom. 7:2). “Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matt. 19:6, 4-5). Jesus said putting away one’s spouse for the cause of fornication is the reason for which one may end marriage and honorably marry another (Matt. 19:9). All other reasons for ending a marriage are sin and adultery is committed in remarriage (Matt. 19:9; 5:32; Rom. 7:3). Sexual immorality defiles the honorable marriage bed. God will punish all who do.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22–24)
There is no greater expression of love than Christ’s love for His church. His sacrificial death on the cross is the model for how husbands must love their wives (Eph. 5:25). At the same time, the church’s loving devotion and submission to the Savior is the wife’s model for yielding to the leadership of her husband. The church’s role is not to lead Christ, but to follow His leadership. There must be a leader in a marriage, and God has given that role to the husband. Wives are to yield to the leadership of their husbands just like the church does to Christ. Marriage thrive when husbands are servant-leaders (like Christ). Marriages flourish when wives are devoted helpers who respect their husbands and yield to their leadership (Eph. 5:33). God’s plan for a successful marriage works!
2 For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man. (Romans 7:2-3)
Marriage ought to be honored by all (Heb. 13:4). Our passage teaches several divine truths about marriage. First, marriage exists between a woman and a man (“the woman who has a husband”). Same-sex marriage is not approved by God, and no amount of redefining marriage will make it so. Next, we learn that marriage is for life (“bound…as long as he lives”). Too often marriage is viewed as a temporary relationship, even though the vow is made “till death we do part”. Marriage is for life, so, choose wisely. Finally, we learn one commits adultery by marrying another while his or her original mate is alive (v. 3). Jesus gave one person in marriage one exception to this rule, that is, putting away for the cause of fornication (Matt. 19:9). Otherwise, only death allows for sinless remarriage. God hates divorce and will not hold guiltless those who dishonor marriage (Mal. 2:16; Heb. 13:4). We have no right to sunder what God joins together (Matt. 19:6).
4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6)
While marriage is being redefined to suit the desires and pleasures of men and women, the One who arranged marriage for humanity continues to expect His parameters to be respected and followed. Jesus agreed that marriage is between “male and female”; there is a husband (male) and a wife (female). Same-sex marriage is the consequence of sinful, unnatural desires of the mind and flesh and will never have divine sanction no matter how many courts of men declare otherwise. Jesus also observed that the husband and the wife are “joined together” by God. He concluded that we must not separate what God has joined together. Marriage is for life, not until the married couple decides to “uncouple” or divorce. Let us honor God by honoring marriage as He gave it.